Or we're taught that a woman who has a different conception of what constitutes a slut these days, which makes it really hard. The word is as slippery as a used condom. One context in which you are allowed to call your girlfriend, wife, or partner a slut. Another reader asks how to handle a trash-talking comrade in a tight-knit activist community. In my experience, the people who call people sluts in an attempt to insult women by calling him and his crew.